It’s been a few months since my last posting, which I entitled “Life is Attitude …. Is Life”.
Much has happened since that last offering. I have found a new job, and in that environment have come to meet some wonderfully supportive and genuine people.
Just over 3 months ago when I started this new job, I was determined to take The Best Me into that environment. You all know that I have been through a bit of personal turmoil in the past 6 and a bit years, and it took me a long time to get comfortable with everything. It’s not that I wanted to reunite with my ex – I knew that was not possible, nor did I want to go back given what had transpired – but I wanted to make absolutely sure of my continued happiness for the sake of my kids as well as my own self esteem.
I am pleased to say that the me that has presented to my new employer, and who interacts with so many wonderful people every day, is THE genuinely happy me. I love my life, and a big part of that is knowing that my children are resilient and are also happy to have 2 happy parents instead of a Mum and Dad who don’t – or can’t – be together any longer.
I can safely say that my separation and divorce, whilst extremely difficult, has been the making of The Real ME. I feel more confident in myself, especially when providing an opinion, and am not scared anymore of what people think. Of course, I still try to stay respectful but I am now able to stand up for myself and speak my mind, or as in most cases seek help when I need it and not be embarrassed to ask questions. My greatest fear is almost completely in the past now.
The best part of this newfound inner strength and belief is that I no longer have the propensity to hold grudges (as easy as that would still be), I see situations for what they are and don’t try to read too much into things. I am also able to shoulder my portion of blame when I have to, as I have known all my life that I am not perfect.
I have finally grown up!
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